There are homeless people who really have nowhere else to go. The safety net in the United States has always been meager, especially when it comes to homeless shelters. These shelters typically have odd hours and curfews, and they will vary tremendously in terms of their safety. Homeless people who have no other connections are in a difficult position.
However, there are other options out there, and there is no reason for you to feel ashamed of taking them. It is okay to ask your friends and family to help you. Most of them would rather help you out than force you to live on the streets. People are often more compassionate than you give them credit for, which I have learned through experience over and over again. Give them an opportunity to help you, and many of them will probably take it. They expect that you would do the same thing for them if necessary, which should be the case. It is not morally wrong to ask anyone for help.
It is also okay to ask people you don’t know very well for help. There are entire websites where you can find listings for people willing to take in couch surfers. These websites will come with reviews of the individual places, making it more likely that you will find a secure place to stay. You don’t need to have a profound emotional connection with someone in order to ask him or her for help. Society is built on people helping one another.
In all likelihood, the people who are hosting you will not complain if they can plainly see that you are trying to get back on your feet again. If you help them out around their own homes, if you’re looking for a job, or if you’re doing anything productive to demonstrate that you care about them and that this is just going to be a temporary situation, then they’re going to continue to sympathize with you. I can’t generalize about all of the people who may host you, but this is one of the trends that i have noticed based on my own experiences and the experiences of the people who I’ve known.
People know that they might fall on hard times, and they want to believe that the floor isn’t going to be as bad for them either. Compassionate and rational people work to make that the case. There are plenty of people like that around, and don’t listen to the voice in your head that says that you don’t deserve to find one of them.